Changing Careers

Do you feel that you have climbed the corporate ladder only to then figure out that this wasn't for you? That's what I did. I spent almost 8 years of my life in school, taking courses, articling as a "Professional Land Surveyor" only to dislike my job immensely.

I gave my power away to my mother all my life when it came to my career choices. I wanted my mother to love and to approve of me so bad that I actually chose to follow my step-sisters boyfriend's career path because of 7 tiny words that my mother said to me. Those words were, "Why can't you be more like Mark?"

I find it absolutely crazy to think that I gave my mother that much power. I lived everyone of those 8 years trying to prove myself to her. I even moved provinces and followed him to his current place of employment. I was the one getting up every morning and going to my job everyday that I couldn't stand. And to think that I had a choice. It never dawned on me because I was like a robot responding to the daily habits trying to get my "payoffs" met. We all have these payoffs and some of us aren't getting them met healthy. My payoff was my need for love and approval. My unconscious limiting beliefs were playing out in one the biggest areas of my life.

I certainly don't blame my mother for all of that but there is a huge lesson to be learnt here and if I don't learn it I'm going to waste more time listening to other people rather than trusting myself for a change. The only problem now is that I've spent all of these years staying safe and I love the safety that my old job provided me. How do I trust myself moving forward?

This is something that I was in resistance to. It was like I would go to move forward and it was like something was holding me back. The answers to all of life's questions lie within us and trusting the process. I have spent a great deal of time supporting myself internally by meditation, exercising, and affirmations. I also support myself externally by taking personal development courses and having a Life Coach. I couldn't have identified these payoffs and limiting beliefs by myself. That is why having a Life Coach guide you through the process is absolutely a great idea.

Through this process I have identified my core negative belief and the lessons that I have learnt from it. I feel that what I found is an incredible gift that I can use for the rest of my life. For the first time in life I feel clear and grounded knowing that I can finally trust myself and life again. I also have a lot of support around me. This is absolutely critical when making big decisions in your life such as changing careers.

I needed to absolutely strip everything away, tear down my house, foundation and rebuild a new foundation, one that is solid. I needed to shed my belief that I am my job title. The truth is, I am so much more than that and so are you.